Dangerous Messages

• Everything you have ever wanted is on the other side of your fear.
• We have to suffer for our art.
• You have to move to your uncomfortable zone.

These are dangerous messages that equate success with pain and fear. Why would you want to do that? While well intentioned, the authors of such messages are unfairly drawing on their unique experience and trying to justify past failures, publicly. There is no rule that says you have to suffer before success. Don't buy into it.

The more you talk about suffering, and the more you equate it with success, the more difficult success is to achieve. If you think you need to struggle,  you will lose confidence, and then face rejection.

It's a vicious circle. Change your self talk.

Create your definitions of success. Don't struggle, enjoy the journey.

I love what Alan Weiss said to me today about this topic: "You don't hear that the champion struggled to win, you hear that the last place person struggled to finish."

Colleen